BetterMen Mentoring - An overview from Wayne

WHY YOU’RE HERE

It's time for a change. You want to be happy. You want to get on with your life. Something in your life isn’t working and you finally want to fix it. You’re unhappy, angry or frustrated and you’ve sometimes given up on yourself—and others. You believe you’re stuck and there’s nothing you can do to change it.

You’ve tried talking with friends. You've tried therapy, seminars, books, and nothing seems to be working—at least not well enough. You may be doing great at work, but you haven’t been the husband or father you want to be. Now, you’re sick of feeling stuck in your own stuff. You're tired of watching yourself make the same mistakes again and again as a husband, a father, a leader, a man.

BetterMen Mentoring will give you the tools to be the man you want to be at home, at work and in all areas of your life. You can do this work in person, or on the phone, in private, and with a guarantee of full confidentiality. With the BetterMen Mentoring process, you will discover the vision of the man you want to be. You'll uncover the obstacles in your way then break through those obstacles to become the best man, husband, father and leader you can be.

WHAT I DO

I've helped good men become better men for over a decade. As director of the West Coast Men’s Center I mentor men, facilitate men’s groups and lead BetterMen Retreats. I’ve found what most men need is not a diagnosis, but the support of other good men to help them find the solutions to their problems.

What we men need is guidance, teaching, and the insight of a trusted advisor. We need to be fathered. Let’s face it, if we all had the fathers of our fantasies, we would have received all the wisdom necessary to succeed in our lives. Unfortunately, many of us had dads who lacked the wisdom, the time, or the ability to teach us. Some of our dads weren’t around at all. But that’s no reason to stay stuck.

Working the BetterMen Mentoring process will teach you to develop and to have a firm grasp of your N.U.T.s, your Non-negotiable Unalterable Terms. The BetterMen Mentoring tools will help you to be successful as a man and in your relationships with your women and children.

I am an expert in knowing how men get stuck, and in helping them get unstuck. The men who have worked with me will attest, the BetterMen Mentoring process has turned their lives around.

WHAT WE’LL DO

The BetterMen Mentoring process is about fathering men. That means you’ll get honest, unapologetic feedback about you in all areas of your life. You’ll get sage advice, the wisdom handed down to me from my mentors.

It’s nice, every now and then, to be mothered. It feels good to have someone make you feel better about the state you’re in. It feels good to crawl up into that warm, comforting place and be held. The problem is, we wake up the next morning with the same problems. Only now, we feel even worse.

You see, we men need to fix things, and that includes our relationships, the one with ourselves and the ones with our women, our children, and the rest of the world.

You’ll learn about N.U.T.s and how to maintain a firm grasp on yours. You’ll receive the tools you need to be the man you want to be, and the man you want to be in a long-term relationship. And you’ll hear when you’re doing a good job, because helping you to appreciate your progress is also something you can expect from our work together.

Together, we’ll help you create a vision of the man you want to be. To achieve that vision, you’ll make commitments and be held accountable to them. Without accountability, you can hide out, lie, numb yourself, indulge your addictions, and otherwise stay stuck. And isn’t that what you’ve been doing for too long now?

HOW IT WORKS

We’ll talk each week. We’ll jump straight into what’s not working. We’ll identify the problems and figure out solutions before you get off the phone. Along the way, you’ll learn about yourself and how you’re not so different from most other men.

You’ll learn the tools needed to have a stronger and happier relationship with yourself, your woman, your kids, and your world. You’ll develop and be encouraged to maintain a firm grasp of your N.U.T.s -Non-negotiable Unalterable Terms.

You’ll develop trust in me. This trust will eventually enable you to develop more trusting relationships with other men in your life. You see, the goal isn’t to make you dependent upon your relationship with me. The goal is to teach you how to be the man you want to be and to bring that man to all of your relationships, including those with men.

WHAT TO EXPECT

If you’re ready to make changes in your life, you should expect some immediate results.

They may be subtle. But as you learn more about yourself, and can see how your behaviors affects those close to you, you’ll start to appreciate the power you have to change what’s happening in your life, in your marriage, with your kids and at work. If you’re consistent, you’ll see changes in yourself and in your life you would have never thought possible.

We’ve come to believe the only place to go when we want to solve our personal problems is to a therapist. We’ve been told couples counseling is the answer for our troubled relationships. Many of you have found out the hard way that it’s just not so. If you’ve tried counseling and have left frustrated, you’ll immediately experience the difference with the BetterMen Mentoring process.

The BetterMen Mentoring process isn’t magic, though it can seem that way. It’s simply the result of men mentoring each other and passing on precious wisdom that has been lost in recent generations. You need to develop a vision of the man you want to be. Only another man can guide you in that process.

If it’s time for you begin making that long-awaited change to be a better man, husband or father, click here and let’s get started.