Help for Men

What is it and why don’t men ask for it? Good questions.
 
It’s getting some direction when you’re lost. It’s receiving a little reassurance when you’re afraid. It’s getting your ass kicked when you’re stubborn, defensive and need to be “right.” For men, help means being fathered.
 
Fathering includes all these things and more. It’s encouragement, constructive criticism, a good laugh, quiet time on a hike, showing you how to do it, or letting you fail so you learn the lesson. Fathering is caring enough about you to give you what you need…not necessarily what you want.
 
So why won’t more men ask for it?
 
Well, they didn’t get it when they were young and they think they don’t need it now. They’d rather stay with their familiar feelings of being stuck and pissed, rather than muster the courage to learn a new perspective and some new tools so they can stop blaming and start taking ownership of their relationships and their lives.
 
We’re programmed to do it alone these days. Despite obvious and overwhelming evidence, men continue to do it “their way,” even though “their way” hasn’t worked for quite some time. And to be fair, there’s very little encouragement in our culture for men to do it any other way.
 
But you don’t have to be concerned with all men. All you need to do is take care of you, so that you’re in the best position to care for those around you.
 
Help is out there. Fathering is available to you. Ask for it. And then start trusting the men.